ROFL YES this. THIS.
“I think a lot of people are confused about what forgiveness means. I think you can forgive someone without having them in your life, and people get confused about this and think they either have to hold a grudge, or let someone who’s hurt them trample over them again and again and again. Forgiveness simply means you no longer hold a person’s past actions against them. It doesn’t mean you’re stupid and will continue to accept abuse.
I am writing this because I feel there are some people I’ve known in life who think I have it out for them simply because I don’t want to be close to them anymore. It’s nothing personal, dude. It’s like when you burn your hand on the stove. You can blame the stove (holding a grudge) you can blame yourself (letting the “stove” trample over you) or you can blame no one and simply decide not to put your hand on the stove ever again.
I am merely preserving my delicate flesh from your hot wires, stove. It ain’t personal. I’m not mad at you. I’m simply disinterested. I’ve moved on to other appliances.” – Amanda Sandeen